Relationships- who'd have them!

Despite the title, this is not a marital spat made public. We've had plenty over the years, but still seem to end up loving each other at the end of it!
I am feeling a bit exasperated by people who live in their own bubble and do not realise the impact of their words and actions on others.
Am I going to be more specific?
No.

So where does that leave this post?
I am going to tell myself what I believe about handling difficult relationships, in order to regain some sense of equilibrium.

Okay! Pull yourself together!

• If people are difficult, it is much more likely to be because of how they feel inside than what they think about you.
• If they are grumpy, it's probably because of something going on in their lives that you will never know about.
• "Never make an enemy by accident." I heard that in a TV programme recently- probably Downton Abbey- and it makes good sense.
• Never put down the person, even if you have to criticise their behaviour.
• "Sticks and stones may break my bones........." but words can inflict wounds that may never heal, so be careful what you say.
• Never say behind someone's back what you would not want repeated to their face.
• People listen to the advice of a friend more easily than the words of a critic.
• Listen more, think deeply and say little.
• A bad memory is a useful tool when it comes to leaving hurt feelings behind.
• People are different on different days, so give them the benefit of the doubt.
• Never argue after 10 o'clock at night- tiredness makes grumpy wretches of us all!
• Be the first to apologise.
• Don't feel that you have to be right all the time. You aren't.

That's it. The distilled wisdom of 52 years. If only it was as easy to follow as it is to write!
Ho hum!